Speak Your Truth
A friend was in the middle of telling me a story when she interrupted herself to say, “Feel free to tell me to shut-up if I’m talking too much…” She was half joking, but it bothered me, and I said, “Don’t ever give anyone permission to tell you to shut-up or not be yourself.” She stopped laughing and paused.
She was kidding when she said it, but while she saw it as a playful poke at herself, it felt like an example of a larger pattern with her and with many of us: feeling comfortable being ourselves and speaking our truth. Many of us take these seemingly little and harmless digs at ourselves everyday, and we each have a story behind them, but while we think we’re humbling ourselves (to help others feel more comfortable around us), we’re setting up and perpetuating patterns and belief systems of self defeating dynamics within ourselves and between us and those around us. Many of us do things like this everyday (sometimes many times per day) and it adds up over time. We’re limiting ourselves. This self-defeating energy can take root within us and grow. It can block us from being us, from being true to ourselves, and it can manifest as physical symptoms.
Author, Marianne Williamson wrote, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Can you imagine a child telling a friend to remind them to shut up? Somewhere along the way as we're being ourselves and doing amazing things, some of us are told or learn to doubt. I had a wise baseball coach who always seemed to have his finger on the pulse of the team and knew what we needed to hear. Whenever we were about to play a game against a team he felt we should beat, he would remind us to play our game and not let the energy of the other team bring us down. “Bring them up to your level.”, he would say. “Play your game and make them raise their game to your level. If they won’t, that’s ok, but stay high and play your game.” It was a simple and important reminder to stay centered and aware of who we were, to be ourselves, and to not let others limit us.
Be yourself and speak your truth. Let your bright light be there. Be amazing! When we live in alignment with our true selves, there’s freedom to experience and accomplish anything. Your tribe will find you and/or stay with you, and by doing so, you'll inspire others who are ready to do the same. The world needs it.